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When Parenting Orders are not Enough
Recently our co-founders presented to family law professionals explaining Parenting Coordination and how it helps parents. This webinar explains parenting coordination through the eyes of a child, Lily, also covering core concepts related to Parenting Coordination and how...
When parents interpret parenting arrangements differently
From the Parenting Coordinator’s Desk Many parenting disputes arise not because parents refuse to follow parenting orders, but because they interpret the arrangements differently. Parenting Coordination helps parents identify these expectation gaps and develop practical...
When your child is stuck in the middle: breaking the loyalty bind
When parents separate, children often carry more than adults realise. If your child seems anxious before changeovers, avoids talking about the other home, or becomes unusually quiet when you mention the other parent, they may be experiencing what is known as a loyalty...
What to do when your ex isn’t following the parenting orders
It can feel deeply frustrating when the other parent does not follow the parenting orders. You might have worked hard to reach those agreements, or been through a court process that took months (or even years). When the other parent does not follow what was decided, it can...
Resetting routines after the holidays in two homes
The long summer break can be a welcome pause for families. There is more flexibility, later nights, fewer alarms, and a chance to step away from the usual routines. But when February arrives, many separated parents notice a familiar challenge: getting children back into...
Introducing new partners in a child-centred way
Introducing a new partner after separation can be one of the most sensitive moments for a family. Even when a relationship feels settled and positive for the adult, children often experience a mix of curiosity, worry, loyalty conflicts, and uncertainty. At Parenting...
Documenting issues without escalating conflict
When co-parenting is difficult, many parents are told to “document everything.” While documentation can be helpful, it can also become a source of stress, resentment, or escalation if it is done without clarity or purpose. At Parenting Coordination New Zealand (PCNZ), we...
When one parent will not engage, what helps and what does not
One of the most frustrating experiences for separated parents is trying to co-parent with someone who will not engage. Messages go unanswered. Plans are ignored. Decisions are delayed. For the parent who is making the effort, this can feel exhausting and unfair. For...
How a parenting coordinator works with your lawyers, mediator, and the family court
When families are navigating separation, it can feel like there are too many professionals involved: lawyers, mediators, judges, counsellors, and it’s easy to wonder, “Where does a Parenting Coordinator fit into all of this?” At Parenting Coordination New Zealand (PCNZ),...
Parallel parenting vs. co-parenting: which approach fits high-conflict situations?
When Sarah and Tom separated, they both agreed on one thing: they wanted what was best for their children. But within weeks, the text messages grew sharper, the silences longer. Every discussion about school pick-ups, homework, or bedtimes turned into an argument. They’d...
Changeovers without tears: scripts and setups that help kids feel safe
The moment of changeover, when a child moves between homes, is one of the most emotionally charged parts of shared parenting. For some families, it’s smooth: a quick hug, a smile, and everyone moves on with their day.For others, it’s full of tension, tight goodbyes, tears...
Holiday and summer break plans for building a fair and clear festive-season schedule
The holidays can bring joy, excitement and stress when parents are navigating shared care arrangements. It’s a season that shines a light on every difference in expectations: who gets Christmas morning, where the kids will sleep on Boxing Day, and how much travel is too...